Jeffrey AvilesOnline Network Marketing Business Mentor

I’m sure you have met at least one person in your life that is successful, motivated and self-empowered. This is someone that

always seems to land on their feet, turns everything into gold and every success seems to come their way faster and thicker.

I’m also sure you have stopped to think about why these chronically successfulpeople are so energetic, driven andsuccessful with no apparent struggle while you seem to have such inertia impeding your progress.

Many believe that this is some unfair throw of the dice; that they just weren’t meant to become successful. Or perhaps it’s that the ultra successful people had some advantage or social lever that you didn’t. Occasionally this is true, occasionally success is inherited or stumbled into. However, more times than not, it’s created.

Success, first of all, is not a set of achievements or a combination of external factors; it is a mindset. Success is an attitude that comes from a framework of powerful beliefs and empowering thoughts. There have been many books written about this, probably some of which you have read. In the ones I have read, there always seemed to be a certain partiality – an incomplete picture – perhaps biased towards financial success or some other area but not another.

In the following list of beliefs and empowering thoughts, I would like to present a rounder view of success. One that I hope will give you a wider angle towards the meaning of success ranging from the material to the spiritual.

1. I am in charge of my life
   The belief that you and only you are responsible of what you make of a given situation. Life does not happen to you but is a result of how you respond to opportunities and challenges.
2. I can make tomorrow better
   The belief that you can change your future by your actions today. Some people are stuck in a fatalist (and dis-empowering) mindset where they believe they have little control on their life.
3. There is a lot of opportunity out there
   Successful people have their mind set on abundance and opportunity and not scarcity and lack. Trust me this makes a world of a difference. Believe that life, energy, positivity, love, opportunities, success, happiness are abundant…because they are!
4. I don’t need the approval of others to succeed
   If you are always looking for others’ approval and consent you will not go very far off and you will certainly not be self-empowered. Successful people follow their heart even when others are skeptical or do not consent.
5. My intentions have effect on my reality
   This is not to believe in magic where you can wish things into being…well almost. Most people are blind to this but successful people know, consciously or otherwise, that a focused and strong intention is indeed a powerful thing that will make a lot of things happen and certainly get you to your destination faster.
6. People are catalysts not barriers to success
   If approached in the right way and you network with the right people, you will leverage your efforts by a thousand fold. You will get things done faster by getting help from others.
7. Positive thoughts are powerful and empowering
   Successful people know very well that choosing to start a day with a positive rather than a negative outlook means having successful day as opposed to a frustrating one. It’s definitely in the attitude.
8. I am not separate from the rest
   This is a deep insight which only the truly successful and wise ones keep at heart. Commonly people believe that they are separate and cut off from the rest because they are individuals. True knowledge will tell you that everything is interconnected and success comes from acknowledging that you are not separate but one with the forces of life and the universe.
9. How can I use this situation?
   When life throws a bad streak at you or you your plans go down the gutter, ask yourself “How can I use this?”. My life changed as I started doing this. You can always turn a situation around even by just observing, learning and sharpening your attitude.
10. Hard work & perseverance are rewarded
    This is a rule of thumb even if perhaps reward doesn’t always come immediately but is paid off in the long run.
11. My past can be reviewed and rewritten
    Some people are locked in their past or think that their past circumstances determine their future. Successfulpeople are skillful in the art of interpreting their past and reframinmg it according to their optimal advantage.
12. There are forces and energies which can help me if I’m conscious
    You might be thinking magic? Fairies? Not exactly. We cannot perceive certain subtle energies but somesuccessful people believe in positive and negative energy flows from things and people just like ancient Chinese traditions believed in the flow of the Chi (Qi) or life energy. You can make yourself aware of this but it takes practice.
13. Failure is good
    As in point 9, empowered people can turn a failure into success by learning from it and moving on.
14. Don’t take it personally
    Get out of the trap of taking life circumstances personally or you will end up enslaved emotionally. When you get rejections, criticisms, cold shoulders, etc., put in within an impersonal bracket. They are not rejecting me, but an idea of me they have in their mind.
15. Bad patches are temporary
    We all pass through bad patches. It’s the cycle of life. But we all get out of them unless we chose not to. Think outside of the moment.
16. What I learn can be improved and refined
    Self-empowered people have a very dynamic view on life. There is always space for change and improvement especially on skills and lessons learnt.
17. I am constantly developing and expanding new capabilities
    Just like the previous point, empowerment comes from a non-static outlook where life-affirming mind states are believed to expand not contract.
18. Things are impermanent, don’t attach yourself to things
    This is a Buddhist concept which the real successful have learnt through experience. You might think thatsuccessful people are materialistic. I think the really successful are people who have a richer view on life and know how to ride life’s waves without getting emotionally attached.
19. Forget, forgive, rejoice
    Don’t get stuck in resentment and grudges. Travel light without dragging an emotional baggage full of past disappointments.
20. I already have all I need
    Self-explanatory. The path to success is through self-discovery and not world conquest as some would believe. People who have made it knew how to uncover their skills and true potential instead of obsessing with possessing.

Written on 12/21/2009 by Gilbert Ross. For more great articles by Gilbert make sure to visit his Blog Soul Hiker

A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say:we did it ourselves. ~Lao Tzu

Leadership isn’t just for CEOs, coaches and managers. Throughout your life, your ability to perform as a leader can make all the difference between an experience of success and ease, and a feeling of frustration and powerlessness.

Many of you are true leaders without knowing it! If you’re a parent, then you’re a leader. If you’re married, you’re a leader. If you have to teach a class or manage a family budget, you’re a leader.

Thousands of Books have been written about leadership and management. Companies spend millions training their leadership teams, and rightly so – leadership in specific areas can be a skillful and demanding role. But, as with everything else in life, the key to it all is very simple.

The golden rules of leadership can be expressed in many ways, and here are some of them and no, this is not an inclusive list – simply a handful of what I view as the most important.

• They are good role models
  Great leaders lead by example. They don’t ask other people to do something they wouldn’t be prepared to do themselves. They model the kind of behavior they want to see in other people – risk taking, proactivity, self-reflection, honesty.
• They empathize
  A good leader will put herself in the other person’s shoes. She understands that nobody is trying to do a bad job, that everyone is doing what they think best. It might not be what the leader herself thinks is best, of course, but this recognition that there are other perspectives and a genuine willingness to understand another point of view sets good leaders apart.
• They are flexible
  There are usually many different ways to get a job done well, and a good leader will recognize this. He will seek the views of others and change his own ideas accordingly. A great leader is always learning from others, always adapting and ready to try something new.
• They embrace contrast
  Everyone is different, and a good leader will use this diversity to his advantage. Contrast and diversity leads to innovation. A poor leader will try to impose uniformity, but a good leader will encourage new kinds of thinking, originally and fresh perspectives.
• They communicate
  A good leaders doesn’t expect people to read her mind, and she knows that good communication is very difficult. It requires a lot of care and a lot of patience. She will spend time and energy trying to communicate in a genuine way. Meetings and conversations will be interactive and not just on person lecturing another. She will genuinely be open to what is said and will look under the surface to see what other people are really trying to say.
• They give praise
  There is always good stuff happening, and even when he has to make a criticism, the good leader will find something good to say first. He will always focus on the success, the good qualities, the things going right. He is positive and knows that the future is bright.
• They trust people
  I’m sure we’ve all worked with bosses who (sometimes literally) peer over your shoulder to see what you’re doing. A good boss will be clear about expectations and then let you get on with the job, giving support and encouragement when necessary.
• They empower others
  We all need to feel that we are able to make a difference, and a good leader recognizes this. She will not hold on too tightly, but will give away power, distributing it to others and so enabling individuals to learn and grow as they add value to the situation.
• They have a light touch
  Holding on too tight, being inflexible – these are sure ways to failure. A poor leader will try to control everything, but a great leader will know when to act and whan to leave well alone. Lao Tzu wrote, ‘Governing a great nation is like cooking a small fish – too much handling will spoil it.’

Many more traits could be identified, but the ‘golden rules’ of leadership tie all of these qualities and behaviors together. It unifies the apparently diverse skill-set of good leaders and informs their thinking and their action. Can you see what it is? And, most importantly, can you put it into practice in your own life?

So I recently traveled 5hrs in the air 2500 thousand miles away from home to check out this sales funnel. OK.. actually my wife and I were going on vacation to the Hawaiian Islands.  Much to my surprise I would physically walk through the perfect sales funnel. Before we landed in paradise, and when we were planning our trip one thing was for sure, we wanted to go snorkeling.

So the first thing I saw when we landed was the stands with ad magazines and brochures. We picked up a few and started browsing through them.  I started to see this same company placing ads in just about all the magazines I picked up, and the ads really caught my attention. So in I went to one of their shops. My first impression was, “Wow this is a shop for a serious person looking to explore the islands”. They had snorkel gear and much more.

The counter clerk greeted us and asked how may I help you.  I said wow you guys advertise in just about every magazine I have looked through.  The clerk smiled and said we do place a lot of ads. So I told him we would like to rent some snorkel sets.  He repeated the deals that we saw in the ads and explained what we needed.  And also showed use the differences between the equipment we can rent.

With the rental of the snorkel sets he said we can go on a coral reef cruise to snorkel for free, a $50 value. Nice. I said he also mentioned he can get us on a dinner cruise that is normally $100 a person for $50 a person.  Of course on vacation without our kids I said lets do it.  After that he asked what else we were going to do on the island for the week.  We mentioned we were going to take a trip in the rain forest area of the island, and he offered us an audio CD to play in the car to let us know the mile marker of sites to stop and visit on our journey.

So after leaving the shop I started thinking, “I just walked through the best sales funnel“.  You might be asking yourself, “What do you mean? or just sounds like you got sold”. Well let me explain; First of all this company has ads in front of their targeted customers.  Second, their shop is full of multi-able streams of income.  I only mentioned a couple but in this shop they had just about everything under the sun.

Before I was offered something else they made sure I got what I originally came for, a snorkel set. Then they basically showed me one time offers.  Seeing clearly that I was with my wife (knowing your customer) offers us a dinner cruise at a discount and free snorkel cruise (creating value). Then some recommend merchandise to assist us in our travels.

So let me wrap this up, my wife and I walked into the this shop expecting to pay $20 total for a weeks rental for a snorkel set.  We walked out paying $196, happier then when we walked in….All because of this company’s sales funnel.  Lets break it down, they generate targeted leads.  Their primary business or niche is a snorkeling shop. They have affiliates and other multi-able streams of income like the dinner cruise.  It’s no wonder these guys dominate their niche, they can afford to.  They make money even if you say no to there primary business or niche. They also know that when you create value like the free coral reef cruise ($50 value) and build trust with your prospects or customers they will spend more.

So how does this work for the network marketer? If you already have a mlm company that you promote, that is great. You have a primary business.  But are you generating targeted leads? Can you offer them tools, books, coaching, education, affiliate programs for multi-able streams of income?  Are you creating value to those you work with? Do you have a system that tracks your prospects and follows up with them through emails?  Are you building your own list of prospects and customers?

If this snorkel shop only sold me a snorkel set for $20 and I left, two things would happen.  One, they probably would not stay in business very long. Two, they would lack marketing and advertising funds.  Kind of sounds like the path 97% of network marketers out there who don’t understand the importance of a sales funnel.

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I was on the verge of committing network marketing suicide. I know you may be asking yourself, Jeff what are you talking about? I’m going to share with you what saved my network marketing life. So a couple years ago in my mlm company I was going full steam ahead.  Going to meetings on the phone daily with my down line and my up line.

Does Mindset Really Matter?

A home-based enterprise requires extra motivation,
commitment, and time from you. In most cases the person
running the business is doing so alone or with very limited
help. It is because of this that it is imperative for you to
have the desire to succeed.

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PHYSICAL & MENTAL FITNESS
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In order for your business to prosper, you must prosper both
physically and mentally. You are not able to run your
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business all that it needs if you are mentally negative.

Physical fitness begets mental toughness. Similarly, you can
reinforce a “nothing will stop me” mindset by challenging
yourself in your athletic pursuits or physical fitness
routine.

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As I think back over my first couple of years in the industry.  One thing has come to light is success comes when the emotion left.  Like myself, when most people get started in this industry it’s out of excitement, hope or desperation.

Most who get started have never owned a business before, and the thought of now becoming a business owner turns into an emotional decision. When we get started or when we jump in, pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone it feels like sink or swim,  we start spending money, investing our time with a desire to achieve the next level in your companies compensation plan.

The warm market list created holds the key to our success. Each meeting attended contains the secret to your business future. Each call you make off your warm market list is all hope for the future.  Each message left on an answer machine is filled with doubt. Each call not returned by the upline becomes personal. The world starts caving in with each no that is received.  Every new sign up is a night out in the town. All these necessary disciplines and skills ran off emotions.

This is how I felt my first year. Riding on the emotional roller coaster which ended with frustration, and exhaustion.  Nothing scares me more then the new rep who’s going to blow the business up by sharing our opportunity with anything with a pulse.  Because with everything, what goes up most come down, And it does come down hard.  You will experience failure and hopefully be learning from it daily.

With your emotions attached to failure this way of learning will make you sad and hurt. Because we don’t like feeling this way we stop calling our leads and making our lists.  And guess what,  you’re out of business,  unless your WHY is big enough to push you through the pain.

True professionals feel no differently about success and failure. They stay in the mind set of abundance.  The success and failure is just another day in the office. The good and the bad are treated just as they are a part of doing business. The newbie sign up who says he is going to blow this up and the next day never hear from him again. Just another day in the office. The new reps who join and brings his downline from another company. Just another day in the office.

Keeping your emotions out of your day to day building. You will have highs and lows daily don’t let them effect you. As Jim Rohn Puts it: “It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.” Keep close to your why and reflect on it daily.

I recommend at least half hour a day in personal development.  I subscribe to Success magazine.  While reading it I have my journal with me to write my take aways from each article.  Another way I can build my business is through a proven marketing system.  That sorts out the tire kickers and brings in targeted leads.

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What do you do to avoid the emotional roller coaster? I’d love to hear your thoughts…

Let’s begin by talking about the hunting method. When hunting animals what are the animals doing when they know they’re being hunted? They run, and hide doing anything not to be killed. People do the same when hunted. Hunters come off as aggressive and annoying to their family and friends and anyone else they hunt. Now the hunter can feel and see people running away. Like people not returning their phone calls, no shows to meetings, doing anything they can to avoid you. This is a natural feeling when being forced to do something you don’t want to. When hunting is your method your not going to achieve a qualified MLM lead list. What will happen is you will spend too much time with people who are just not looking for an opportunity. You get frustrated when they say no and then want to quit.

What methods do the top leaders use? The successful leaders use the fishing method. They have learned where the hungry fish are. They use attraction marketing as a tool to avoid hunting. They know the bait is the leader (YOU) not the products, services, compensation plan or company. They build the relationship by asking the right questions and listening to the response. They understand that this is a numbers game. They speak to an audience to leverage their time. They know to have a qualified mlm lead list means gaining trust with people. So they are willing and wanting to follow.

How to become a guru on getting a qualified mlm lead list today? Lets look at the Internet, you are on it now. You are a fish looking for information, think you are the only one? There are billions of people daily turning to the Internet to find opportunities. Someone who they can relate with who presents themselves as a leader of influence. Not just another person pitching them another opportunity. Internet marketing allows you to leverage your time with hand picked targeted leads. To understand how to do effective Internet marketing you must have a system. A system of education and a mentor/coach to show you how.

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Most MLM companies offer a predesigned, replicated website to their representatives. In all different price ranges. I can’t help but think who are you really marketing for? Your business or your company’s business? I remember when I first got my replicated website, I was so excited and felt lucky to work for a company that would take the time to put one together for me.

Little did I know, the joke was on me. Along with the replicated website comes all your online trade mark spamming and compliance rules. I soon found out with replicated websites you can do very little marketing if any. So you pay for it and it just sits and markets for your company not your business.

I have yet to hear anybody say “I’m generating endless leads with my replicated website and it’s actually paying for itself”. Think about it, even when you use it just for information so people can look at your opportunity, what if your prospect/customer misspells a word or letter? Because the website is all on the same hosting server it goes to another replicated website for the same company. You just handed another representative a lead. Guess who will always win… your company.